I chose Joshua because he inspired the name of this blog. Like Joshua, I’m trying to knock down walls. His obviously weren’t as strong as mine!
I love this rendering of the song:
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Author: Miriam Drori
Author, editor, attempter of this thing called life. Social anxiety warrior. Re-Connections, a collection of short stories, published with Ocelot Press, 15/10/2025.
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A to Z Challenge: I is for ITS or IT’S
Of all the mistakes I see in English spelling/grammar (and there’s no shortage of them) this is the one that bugs me the most. I don’t know why. Maybe because it’s so common. Or because it’s one of the first rules I learned.
I was seven years old. Our teacher took a whole lesson to explain and I’ve never forgotten it. Here’s the rule as she explained it:
IT’S usually stands for IT IS. Sometimes it stands for IT HAS.
ITS is correct if you can insert the word OWN after it.
That’s all there is to it. So why do people get it wrong so often?
Because ITS without an apostrophe is possessive. It means belonging to it. And the possessive form with a noun is spelt with an apostrophe, as in MIRIAM’S BUGBEAR. So some people’s logic tells them that ITS meaning belonging to it also requires an apostrophe. It doesn’t. Logic is not always a sensible attribute to use when writing English.
Another reason is that English grammar is no longer taught as it used to be. That’s considered unnecessary these days. Grrr!
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A to Z Challenge: H is for HIDDEN
An SAer is someone who has social anxiety.
Social anxiety could be called the hidden disorder for several reasons:
- It’s not usually something you see immediately. Some SAers are good at hiding it. You could mistake it for aloofness, stupidity or something else.
- SAers aren’t good at talking, and it’s especially hard to describe SA to someone who hasn’t experienced it.
- SAers are afraid to talk about SA. There is a stigma involved in mentioning it.
- TV and radio programmes about mental health tend to focus on depression and schizophrenia. This is understandable. It’s harder to interview SAers. They’re generally not good at explaining – especially in a broadcast interview.
SA must be brought out of hiding. I’m absolutely certain of that.
Social anxiety is a lot about being so afraid to say or do THE WRONG THING that you don’t do anything – which is often definitely the wrong thing.
So when I attended a funeral recently and my friend, the chief mourner, thanked me for coming, I just nodded, certain that anything I might say would be THE WRONG THING.
The trouble is, I probably would get it wrong, because I never learned to get it right. I need a Mr Right to teach me, although I wouldn’t want Mr Right’s fate to befall that person. Remember? The more right Mr Wrong became, the more wrong Mr Right became. Oh dear.
I copied this from here:
The fight or flight response is the response of the body to a perceived threat. When faced with danger, the body releases hormones such as adrenaline and cortisol. These hormones give us a burst of energy and strength by increasing the heart rate, slowing digestion and directing blood to major muscle groups. Although the response is helpful in cases of physical threat (such as needing to run away from a bear), it is inappropriate and maladaptive when it occurs in social or performance situations, as is the case with social anxiety disorder.
You’re telling me?
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A to Z Challenge: E is for ENJOYMENT
Nicola Morgan is someone who knows how to ask the right questions. (Gill is another.)
About my two years of blogging, she asked, “Have you enjoyed it?”
I didn’t know how to answer that at first. I know it’s been a positive experience. I know the things I worried about when I began it – criticism, ridicule, disregard – didn’t happen.
But have I enjoyed it? Yes. I’ve enjoyed connecting with people through my blog. Most of all, I’ve enjoyed meeting up with two of those people in real life. One of them, Cathy Walter, I met for the first time. The other, Erika, knew me but didn’t know me – not the real me. I do hope to meet more of my online friends in real life, because I enjoy doing that.
I think we should all be clear about what we enjoy, because:
Enjoyment is what life is for.
That and helping others to enjoy life.
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A to Z Challenge: D is for DANCING
Dancing is my relaxation. Not for the body, but for the mind. When I dance, I don’t think about work or writing or how embarrassed I feel about something I said or did.
How do you relax?
It’s easy to be critical. Other people often don’t behave the way you would, so you criticise them. But do you really understand? Do you know all the reasons why they acted as they did? Or the reasons why they didn’t act?
People who suffer from social anxiety worry about what others think of their behaviour. The worry itself causes them to act differently from the way you might expect, or not to act at all. So…
Don’t be quick to criticise others. You don’t always know what lies behind their behaviour.
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A to Z Challenge: B is for Bullying
Just a question today.
In the dark, distant days of yore when I was at school, teachers didn’t really have the skills to deal with bullying. They hadn’t been taught this, and presumably what seems obvious to me wasn’t obvious to them. For them, as long as violence wasn’t involved, what happened between the children was none of their business.
Nowadays, things are different. Bullying is discussed as part of their syllabus. Schools have bullying policies.
So why is bullying still rampant in schools?
BULLYING
Just a question today.
In the dark, distant days of yore when I was at school, teachers didn’t really have the skills to deal with bullying. They hadn’t been taught this, and presumably what seems obvious to me wasn’t obvious to them. For them, as long as violence wasn’t involved, what happened between the children was none of their business.
Nowadays, things are different. Bullying is discussed as part of their syllabus. Schools have “bullying policies”.
So why is bullying still rampant in schools?
Heh heh, fooled you!
A is for ANXIETY.
What else could it be in a blog that’s devoted to writing and social anxiety?
I’m repeating this, for anyone who hasn’t read it before:
Social anxiety (SA) is a fear of people and especially of what those people think of the sufferer. I’ve seen SA defined as extreme shyness. While this is probably true for most sufferers, it doesn’t apply to everyone.
The origin of SA is a mixture of nature and nurture. Two people can go through the same experiences and only one will get it. Two people can start off with the same characteristics and only one will get it.
I’ll write more about social anxiety during this A to Z month. Do come back and read about that and other things.
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