If I did, please tell me. One of the reasons why I write is that it’s the only way I know of explaining and getting my message across without being misunderstood. So if I’ve written anything misleading, I want to know so that I can correct my error. I think I can do that.
What triggered this question was an email. Being an expert at guessing other people’s thoughts (which is the essence of a good SAer*), I’m wondering if this is what my readers think I’m asserting:
*SAer: someone who suffers from social anxiety.
We SAers belong to this elite of perfect people who always act in the right way, especially when regarding other people’s feelings. If everyone behaved as we do, everything would be fine. Unfortunately, non-SAers are bad people who don’t give a damn about messing with our feelings and have caused us to suffer.
NOOOO! I’ve never said that or thought that or intended anyone to understand that. And I hasten to add that the email writer didn’t say that either. I’m exaggerating slightly… like maybe 2000%.
So this is what I want to make clear: SAers are just human beings like everyone else and come in many different varieties with different opinions, thoughts and feelings. You can see this on SA forums where members argue and get upset and even leave the forum due to the behaviour of other members.
And non-SAers are also nice, nasty and mediocre. In fact, some of my best friends are non-SAers.
Miriam Drori, Author 