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Spring Has Sprung

And everything is good… well almost everything.

Plum tree
Plum tree

Blossom is everywhere.

Blossom in park
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It’s getting warmer. Warm enough to sit outside in the sun. But not so warm that I search for shade… except on days when it’s extra hot. The weather can’t be trusted at this time of the year, but that gives us variety that vanishes in the summer.

Hyacinth
Hyacinth

This hyacinth branch was falling off, so it’s now indoors and its fragrance is exquisite. By the way, in Hebrew hyacinth is yakinton, a word that always reminds me of ‘mackintosh’ but actually has the same root as ‘hyacinth.’

I can’t say I’ve started the spring cleaning, but I’ve started thinking about it. Maybe today….

There is one thorn in my rose. Someone I see regularly has decided to stop talking to me and I have no idea why. (It’s OK – she’s very unlikely to see this blog.) I wonder what’s the best response to it. I could write to her and explain how I feel. I could talk to her normally and pretend to ignore her curt behaviour. What do you suggest?

By Miriam Drori

Author, editor, attempter of this thing called life.

14 replies on “Spring Has Sprung”

I love hyacinths – but they give one of the daughter’s hay fever, so I can’t have them in the house if she’s coming. Maybe that makes me love them even more!

I have three hyacinth bulbs in a brown paper bag in the fridge – it is still too warm here to plant them

Lovely photos. Such a shame about your friend – is she a friend, or more of an acquaintance? This has happened to me a few times, three that really bothered me. The first two actually got back in touch with me years later to explain that they had been going through some stuff (not the same stuff, there were a few years between them!) and whatever they had said was the reason, wasn’t actually it. Although it felt like it was all about me, really it was more about them… The third is more recent and when I asked her why she’d stopped speaking to me, I didn’t like her answer. On reflection I get it, her perception was accurate – from her point of view… But although she insisted it wasn’t about me, at the time it felt like it was… I am rambling. I think my point is, if she’s just an acquaintance, then treat her normally (if you have to continue to see her) and focus on your friends. If she was/is someone you consider a friend, then you could ask her about her behaviour… But before you do, consider whether you’re prepared for her to ignore your request, or for an answer that could be as upsetting as being singled out. I don’t know if that helps at all! I hope that whatever happens, this experience is something you can put behind you in time. x

Thank you, Rachael. She’s… well, I don’t know her so well but she was very friendly and suddenly she isn’t. I did ask if I’d done anything to hurt her and she walked away without saying anything. I think I’ll now treat her normally. (I have to continue to see her about every two weeks.) I just have to stop seeing it as my problem and start seeing it as hers. Sorry this has happened to you so many times.

Good idea. Maybe it will all become clear in time, maybe not but seeing it as her problem sounds like the best way to go about it. As for me, well, you live and learn! Everyone has stuff and sometimes people outgrow each other… It hurts at the time but time is a great healer. Hope you’re having a good week! x

Hyacinths are so beautiful.

Maybe you should write your friend that letter and see if that doesn’t give you any answers. If that doesn’t work, it might be that that particular friendship has come to an end. You can only do so much.

Hello Elizabeth. I tried to move this comment to the correct post, but WordPress won’t let me do this any more because it requires a password for the email address. Thanks for visiting. Hope to see you in April.

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