The Social Sandwich, Part 8

This is the eighth in a series of posts describing my recent trip to England, Ireland, the Netherlands and Wales, from writing course to school reunion and more.

Do you talk to strangers when you travel alone? I tend not to. I tend to assume they’re not interested in talking to me. And besides, I always have a book to read, and if I spend the time talking I won’t be getting on with my reading.

But sometimes people start conversations with me, and sometimes they turn out to be interesting. That’s how I met the English woman who lives in the Netherlands. I don’t know her name, so I’ll call her Nonstop.

Nonstop first talked to me at Schiphol Airport when she saw me playing Scrabble on my phone as we waited by the gate for our flight to Southampton.

“Do you like the new version of Scrabble?” she asked, stealing my attention from the game.

I shrugged my shoulders. “I used to like being able to see the meanings of words, but otherwise it’s all right.”

Nonstop had several issues with the new version, mostly because she played with strangers.

“I only play with people I know,” I told her.

I thought I’d seen the end of Nonstop when we went through security and boarded the plane, but she appeared again in the seat next to mine. For an hour and a half, she kept talking. She was very friendly and what she had to say was interesting – for an hour and a half. She told me about her family and her job and why she ended up living in the Netherlands until I started to feel a bit overwhelmed and wasn’t altogether surprised to hear that her marriage didn’t last.

And then she told me about an online conversation she’d had with one of the strangers she played Scrabble with. Instead of just saying, “Goodbye,” she said, “Must go, head count, lights out.”

I wouldn’t have understood this, but the stranger understood and believed that Nonstop was in prison and asked what she’d done.

Nonstop replied, “Murdered my husband,” not expecting the stranger to take her seriously.

“He must have deserved it,” the stranger wrote back and continued to play Scrabble.

Finally, we landed, taxied, waited, said our goodbyes.

As I was remonstrating with the ticket machine at the railway station, I heard a voice behind me. “There’s a queue here, you know.”

“Just a minute,” I called, anxiety rising.

“It’s me.”

I turned round to see Nonstop smiling.

We waited for the same train while Nonstop told me all about the people she was going to visit. When we got on the train, the luggage area was full, so I couldn’t sit next to Nonstop because I had to find a place for my suitcase.

Actually, I wasn’t sorry.

By Miriam Drori

Author, editor, attempter of this thing called life. Social anxiety warrior. Cultivating a Fuji, edition 3, a poignant, humorous and uplifting tale, published with Ocelot Press, January 2023.

11 replies on “The Social Sandwich, Part 8”

Great story – I’m one for talking with all sorts of people when I’m travelling. Some are tedious, but others are entertaining, and different, and wonderful – and bring a different aspect to any travel memoir.

That’s so funny. I tend to keep my head down and not talk to people – and your story illustrates why. A couple of sentences back and forth is okay, but I wouldn’t be able to cope with the entire journey.

I love this post! So honest, especially the last line, ‘I wasn’t sorry.’ I do like talking to strangers and find it interesting sometimes but others (such as nonstop) can be very draining and I try to avoid them or somehow signal (politely) that I’m done talking. Doesn’t always work though! Glad you managed to lose her in the end.

I’m enjoying catching up on your journey and amazed at how much you managed to fit in! It’s less of a sandwich and more of a full taster menu. Every course is satisfying – although I couldn’t eat it all at once! 😉

I suppose I do talk to people – or they talk to me and I answer. I had a conversation with a woman on the train who had been having another conversation on her phone in Spanish the other day. She made eye contact and apologised for using her phone. I said,”Where in South America do you come from?” and she was delighted that I thought South America rather than Spain. We only chatted for two minutes as the train headed in to the last station but she went off with a smile and a wave saying, in Spanish, “thankyou for talking to me”. I find that sort of thing interesting – and great material for writing!

This made me laugh. I worry that I don’t talk enough but some people talk too much! This woman sounds like she might have been an interesting person to listen to in small doses.

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