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Decayed Decade

I’ve been very silly. I’ve left the last decade out to rot instead of putting it neatly away in the deep freeze. I’ve read what other people accomplished in the last decade and decided that I didn’t accomplish anything. But now that I think about it, I was at a very different place ten years ago.

Ten years ago, I was struggling to do things without really understanding why they were hard. Now, I still struggle but at least I understand what I’m struggling against.

Ten years ago, I was still attempting to keep my childhood out of my life, as if I could pretend that it didn’t happen. Now, I’ve come to terms with it and accept that it’ll always be there. Sometimes, it’s even useful.

Ten years ago, the people I went to school with were nasty, hurtful children. Now, they’re some of the nicest women I have met.

Ten years ago, I didn’t know Gill. Now I know her as a wonderful friend, one I will always be indebted to.

Ten years ago, I hadn’t even thought of doing any writing (apart from technical writing). Now, writing is something I enjoy immensely.

Ten years ago, my only social hobby was folk dancing. Now, I also look forward to the fortnightly meetings of my writing group.

Ten years ago, I lived in a small house in a beautiful neighbourhood. Now, I live in a large house with a beautiful garden in a less beautiful neighbourhood. You can’t have everything!

Ten years ago, I hadn’t visited India, Mexico and Guatemala. Now, I have.

Ten years ago, I didn’t have any online friends. Now, I have friends on Facebook, Twitter and more, friends with whom I can connect on a level rather than feeling like the unwanted poor relation.

Ten years ago, I didn’t have this blog. Now, I have the perfect tool for explaining all the things I couldn’t say.

As I hurry to pack up the last decade, I wonder what the new, fresh one will bring, where I will be in ten years’ time. I hope it’s a good place. And I hope all my readers will be in good places, too.

By Miriam Drori

Author, editor, attempter of this thing called life. Social anxiety warrior. Cultivating a Fuji, edition 3, a poignant, humorous and uplifting tale, published with Ocelot Press, January 2023.

8 replies on “Decayed Decade”

It sounds like you’ve managed to accomplish a lot in 10 years. You’ve gathered friends, picked up a new hobby, and emotionally balanced yourself. That last one was probably the hardest. I hope this next decade is even better for you.

Thank you, whoever you are. I hope it’s better for you, too. Sorry, your book isn’t the sort I want to read….

Hey there.

You rang some bells with me, and your looking for the positive is something I’ve been working on. The last couple of years, I too have been working against events from my youth and trying to leave them behind. I too used to do folk dancing (well, Morris in fact). I have always enjoyed writing but never sent anything out through fear of rejection. Now I have a finished novel to send out. I have online contacts and a writing group also. I’ve enjoyed reading your blog and your thoughts, so here’s to many more achievements this year.

It has been interesting to look back 10 years. There was such an excitement about a new millennium (and the debate on whether this was the start of a millennium)and how has it turned out. We can’t travel easily for worry about being blown out of the skies or using too much fuel; here in the UK we can’t even have decent light bulbs. Global warming is giving us some of the coldest weather we have ever known. I have lost my mother, my mother in law and one of our dearest friends. My life hasn’t changed in the ways that yours has.
Maybe that is why we get such joy out of other things – a lovely spring day, the sight of everything covered in snow, Radio 4,the internet and these new ways of communicating, good books to read.
And who knows what the next 10 years will hold?

I believe that if we want changes in our lives we have to make them happen. There have been deaths amongst my family and friends over the past decade. There have been disappointments and setbacks. There are changes I haven’t yet succeeded in making and others I realise will never happen. I try to concentrate on the positive changes.

Hi, visiting from Nicola’s party.

Ten years ago, I was 11 years old and it feels like “forever ago.” I hope your next ten will bring many more exciting adventures and lessons to learn. 🙂

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